my thoughts on...

chick flicks.

okay. so i've been thinking. and i've come to a conclusion (finally.)

romantic movies = very bad for actual romance.

think about it. we (we being girls) watch these movies, and the men in these movies are suave, and exciting, and they always know the right thing to say or the right thing to do. we watch this in movie after movie, and suddenly, it seems like THAT is what a normal, healthy relationship looks like.

but did you ever stop to think about WHY the guys in these movies are so wonderful.
...really...think about it.
before they do or say these wonderful, romantic things, they are handed a PIECE OF PAPER telling them EXACTLY what to do or say.
and you know who comes up with the IDEAS on these pieces of paper?
generally, it's GIRLS JUST LIKE US who KNOW WHAT WE WANT.

and so we watch these movies and then we say "why doesn't my boyfriend serenade me?" or "he's never planned a huge elaborate surprise for me like that...what's wrong with my boyfriend?"

NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND.
he simply doesn't have someone to write a script for him telling him what to do or say all the time.
and you know what, that makes things a little more exciting.

NOTE TO SELF:

romance isn't about big, elaborate surprises, or wonderful, sappy love stories.
it's about real people surviving together, supporting each other, and loving each other, no matter what.

so the next time the he says the wrong thing, or does something that makes you really mad, give him a big hug.
because that's what makes him real. that's what makes him human.
that's why you love him in the first place.

thank you, God, for an imperfect boyfried.